Recent Musings
Toxic Forgiveness in Narcissistic Abuse
The idea that forgiveness is necessary for healing can be deeply uncaring towards those who have been wronged. Toxic forgiveness, particularly in cases of narcissistic abuse, can feel wounding and re-traumatizing. Instead, the focus should be on self-forgiveness and healing false beliefs imposed by the abuser. Self-forgiveness requires acknowledging the burden carried, changing the belief system, and developing a compassionate connection with oneself. Redirecting energy towards self-compassion and self-acceptance can be immensely potent in the healing process. It's important to hold space for authentic emotions without falling into the trap of hating or blaming the abuser. Embrace self-healing and prioritize self-forgiveness, self-compassion, and self-acceptance as essential components of reclaiming your sense of self.
What Causes Self-Doubt (and 5 Steps To Undo It)
Self-doubt, a common struggle, can become all-encompassing and hinder decision-making. Attachment theory suggests that early experiences with caregivers shape our self-doubt tendencies. Anxious and inconsistent caregiving can lead to an unreliable relationship with ourselves, marked by self-doubt. Anxiety and rumination often cloud our emotions, preventing us from trusting our inner compass. However, by practicing trust, honoring our feelings, releasing "shoulds," challenging projections, and confronting fears, we can break free from self-doubt's grip. Embrace the journey of unleashing your inner wisdom, finding peace, clarity, and compassion within yourself.
