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Healing Doesn’t Always Feel Good
Hannah Alderete Hannah Alderete

Healing Doesn’t Always Feel Good

Healing isn't always comfortable; it starts with confronting pain. But it leads to:

Calmness under stress
Clear mind and energy
Release from past trauma
Improved relationships
Sense of freedom and body awareness
Mastery over emotions
Better conflict resolution skills

It's a journey, not a destination. Be kind to yourself. You've got this!

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Don't Let Anxiety Hold You Back! Overcome Paralysis And Embrace Growth.
Hannah Alderete Hannah Alderete

Don't Let Anxiety Hold You Back! Overcome Paralysis And Embrace Growth.

Anxiety is more than just a fleeting feeling of nervousness; it's a complex experience shared by many. From intrusive thoughts to chronic worry, anxiety can leave us feeling trapped and overwhelmed. But here's the good news - anxiety doesn't have to control your life! With the right tools, understanding, and support, you can break free from its grip and embrace a life of growth and resilience. In this blog post, we'll explore various anxiety disorders and share practical strategies for managing anxiety and fostering personal growth. By recognizing the specific anxiety disorder you may be facing and utilizing therapeutic approaches like exposure and response prevention therapy (ERP) and mindfulness, you can start your journey towards reclaiming your life and unlocking a future filled with inner peace and personal fulfillment. Healing takes time, setbacks are normal, but with persistence and support, you have the power to overcome anxiety and thrive!

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How To Lower Your Standards as a Perfectionist
Hannah Alderete Hannah Alderete

How To Lower Your Standards as a Perfectionist

Perfectionism can be an overwhelming burden that affects various aspects of our lives. As an underlying component of anxiety disorders, perfectionism stems from the desire to avoid discomfort by maintaining impossibly high standards. The rigidity and inflexibility that come with perfectionism can hinder adaptability and acceptance of our own limitations. Grieving the life we thought we should be living and challenging the ego's attachment to productivity and expectations is crucial in overcoming perfectionism. By embracing imperfection and realizing that being "good enough" is part of being human, we can cultivate flexibility and cope with the challenges of life more effectively. Explore thought-provoking questions to identify how perfectionism burdens your life, envision a scaled-down approach, and discover the potential for personal growth and improved relationships. Embrace imperfection as an opportunity for growth and explore a life that is free from the shackles of perfectionism.

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Toxic Forgiveness in Narcissistic Abuse
Hannah Alderete Hannah Alderete

Toxic Forgiveness in Narcissistic Abuse

The idea that forgiveness is necessary for healing can be deeply uncaring towards those who have been wronged. Toxic forgiveness, particularly in cases of narcissistic abuse, can feel wounding and re-traumatizing. Instead, the focus should be on self-forgiveness and healing false beliefs imposed by the abuser. Self-forgiveness requires acknowledging the burden carried, changing the belief system, and developing a compassionate connection with oneself. Redirecting energy towards self-compassion and self-acceptance can be immensely potent in the healing process. It's important to hold space for authentic emotions without falling into the trap of hating or blaming the abuser. Embrace self-healing and prioritize self-forgiveness, self-compassion, and self-acceptance as essential components of reclaiming your sense of self.

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